;-)

Sorry for taking so long to update my blog. Been doing a lot of things...good things :-). Anyways, I am so done with the SD search. It never worked out and I believe its in good reason because I think I found me a good MAN. Hallelujah!!!! I am happy right now. I hope things continue to go as they are. I pray all my readers are enjoying their journeys. I will still blog, hopefully more often though. Right now, I'm HAPPY.

Fuck 90 days...

...unless you're seeking a serious relationship. But right now I'm not. I'm referring to Steve Harvey's book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man". Now I haven't read his book, yet, but I remember when he was on Oprah talking about giving a man 90 days until you have sex with him. Ummm, no Mr. Harvey...not I.

If I meet a guy and we click and he's attractive, and everything is all good and dandy then you best believe we are going to wrestle in the sheets. I'm not saying to have a one-night stand either but whatever tickles your fancy. Americans have too many rules. Just follow your heart, gut, and mind and do what you want. As long as everyone is an adult, not drugged and use protection. Its all good. ;-)

Interesting observation

Since I've been dating, I've noticed that most white men refer to their penis as "cock" and black men refer to theirs as "dick".  Just an observation lol

Stop looking helps

I'm having a good time with just dating. I'm not looking as much right now. Dates just happens. I realize that when I look for a date or SD it doesnt happen. So to avoid being frustrated I continue to go to work, work out and have fun with my friends.

The good news is...the dry spell is OVER."Yay!". This guy is just a new guy friend I met. Not looking for anything else from him besides sex and conversation. But I am seeing a couple of other guys. I'm just enjoying the ride :-)

So far so good

I've been dating a lot. There are moments where the dating scene is a bit slow but right now its going well. I have a date tonight actually. I'm looking forward to it. Unfortunately, the date wont be long because my girlfriends and I have a prior engagement. But I'm ready for tonight :-)

SMH

Unfortunately its the same song and dance. I'm still (sexually) frustrated. Luckily I have a job to keep me busy. The SD search sucks balls too. I dont know what to do. I get emails but nothing. I'll email these guys back then we'll meet and have good conversation. I am often complimented and stared at lol. These men are excited about our friendship/relationship, then our date ends. I get home thinking about the date and hope something great happens from it but days will go by...no email/no call. Hmmm...what's going on? If the date went well, then what happened to the second date? I have no clue what's going on and I honestly don't have the time to figure it out. Men are weird...seriously.

So busy

I have been really busy lately but I'm fine. I have a date set up this week and trying not to think too much of it. According to him, he's a successful physician and is looking for a nice girl to respect his privacy etc. He's very mature in age but its ok. I just hope he looks good. He saw my pic and really liked what he saw. I'm just going to have low expectations and see where it goes. I'm tired of playing games so will take things one day at a time.

FYI: I had more luck meeting men on non-SD sites.

Ok, dont get it

I don't understand some men. If you're not willing to meet me where I am or at least halfway, then I'm not interested. Why should I waste my time traveling more than 30 minutes to see you? Sorry. When you gain a brain cell and realize I'm worth the trip then call me. Thanks :-)

Not sure what to do

I am thinking about getting rid of "Genius". I want to get rid of him because the relationship is not "mutually beneficial". He's enjoying me but I'm not enjoying him. He emailed me last night saying how he was thinking about me and enjoyed... but I didnt respond. I'm kind of tired of not benefiting from this "arrangement". He's self employed but with the economy his clients are filing bankruptcy so funds are tight for him. No problem, sh** happens. Even though I'm not really looking for a SD/SB relationship with him I'd rather for him to satisfy me in bed.


We haven't have sex yet but the foreplay/fooling around is not good. I would go in detail but dont want to remind myself of the details. All in all, I will talk to him eventually but this time I'm going to be firm and speak my mind and yet be considerate of his feelings. I enjoy his company but I can't be the one making him "explode" all the time and after you leave I have to pull out Mr. Vibey. That sucks.

Why Cry Over Spilled Milk?

I'm a little upset with "Genius". He cancelled our date for today. He was held up because of business. However, he wants to see me tomorrow but I told him, "No, I have plans". I'm not going to reschedule my plans for anyone anymore. I also have plans to see a "few good men" in the next few days so I really could care less about "Genius".  I'm going to keep moving forward. When "Genius" learns his lesson and emails me again, I may give him another chance.

Ok, so far so good.

I'm going to meet my usual "friend" this week. He's kind of like an SD but not really. He's the one I mentioned before that had degrees out his a** and businesses. I'll call him "Genius". Well I say he is sorta an SD because I never came out my wallet for anything when I'm with him. He's really sweet and he's ambitious. I'm still working with him on getting gifts etc. I know he's going through some things with his clients so I'm just being patient. In the meantime, I enjoy having oral sex with him. Hey, I gotta get pleasure some way.
I also have an "appointment" with this guy I met on one of the dating sites. He's shown interest in me and he's cute also. The only thing is he's "attached" lol. Do I really care? Not really. He's married, I'm not. He's cute and I'm going to see him next week. If there's chemistry and since he's married, I'm going to convince him to pay for some "maintenance" fees for me. That's the least he can do. Once I meet him, I'll think of a nickname for him.
Oh, I almost forgot. I have a lunch date with another "attached" man this weekend. He kind of reminds me of Billy Crystal so that's what I'm gonna call him. He's ok in the looks department but if he's willing to spend some "green" on me then I'm sure he's going to look better :-).

The Nerve of these "MEN"

I put "Men" in quotation marks because there are a lot of men, especially most white men, who would love to f*** a black woman in the dark but seldom walk with them in the light. I am on a few dating sites now and I get most requests from married men looking for a "discreet encounter" but I dont get much single white men wanting to date me. The nerve of them. It takes a REAL MAN to date whomever he wants and is proud of his woman....whether she's black, white or green.

Feeling tired and...

...about to use my vibrator so I can have a nice nap lol. I was almost done w/ online dating but so far things are looking up. I also joined AM and I have gotten a lot of emails of men wanting to meet me. That's good. They may not be SD material but at the end of the day, I just want to have sex. And it's so hard to find the right one to have sex with. OMG!!!! And yes, my married friend is very persistent with wanting to have sex with me. I'm flattered but I work with him. I don't want to mix business with pleasure. I'm gonna call him Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde because he's conflicted between wanting to have an extramarital affair and his religion. I'm not into confused men lol.  Anyways, he's cute and all but something is telling me not to mess with him. Anyways, Good Afternoon All. I am about to get busy and go to sleep :-).

Yes, I'm BACK!!!!!

Oh gosh, sorry it's been a while since I've posted but I am happy to be back. Will you believe I deleted this blog a couple days ago because I didnt think I would have anything to talk about. I soon regretted my decision and feared that my blog was no more. But thanks to Blogger, I was able to "undelete" my blog. Hallelujah!!!
Anyways, not much changed since the last time I've updated but I'm happy to say that I have been dating. Yay!!! I'm still a "virgin" but I'm having fun nonetheless. For the past couple of months, I have dated a few men. Some duds and some potential suitors. We shall see. So far I'm "dating" two men. I say "dating" because one is married w/ children but really adores me. He loves talking to me because I listen and give him advice. I am his friend basically. But a friend that he likes to take out for drinks. We dont do much because we have conflicting work schedules but when we do have time to spend together, he really likes to take me out for dinner and drinks. He is cute but I dont know. He seems to be confused on a lot of things but we do have fun together so why spoil a good thing? We are sexually attracted to each other but I like how our relationship is going.
Another guy I'm seeing is a divorce man w/ children. He lives in an affluent town and "has money" so he says. I kind of believe him because he drives a Benz, owns a few businesses, and has degrees out his a** from an Ivy League university. However, I'm still waiting for him to contact me and say, "Lets go shopping!".
Am I looking for a SD? Yes! Why not? Since my previous, serious relationship didn't work out I vowed to not look for love anytime soon. I want to have fun. Use what you got to get what you want. Am I right? LOL!
Ok so will keep you posted.

WTF?!

I went on my "date" last nite and it was "ok". I met my "sext" buddy at this local bar and first of all no one my age was there. There were a few "old heads" in there. But it's ok. Also, the ambience was dry and boring to say the least. I dont know if it was because I went out on a Wednesday night but I've seen more action at a bris.
Anyway, this guy looked barely like his picture. His pic turned me on but him, in person, was so-so. I dont know how that happened but his photographer was a magician. The guy was somewhat cute nonetheless. He was a little nervous, even though he said he wasn't. I knew he didn't expect me to look so good but I did. Anyways, after he bought me a couple of drinks I guess he expected "more" from our date. Basically as soon as our "date" was over we both drove off and he "sext" me like a couple of minutes later wanting to eat me out, fuck me etc. And why should I because you bought me a couple of drinks? LMFAO!!!  Sorry buddy you need to crawl your ass back into the hole you came from because what kind of girl do you think I am? This guy must be out of his freaking mind. How can you even ask me to do anything sexual with you and your own picture looked better than you. It was more to it than just his pic looking better than he did but I am trying to be nice.
All I can say is I am still looking for a worthy candidate. I hate this online dating crap but it's something to do. Yeah I can go out and meet men face to face but I really don't have the time. Poor me. :-(

Things are looking good...so far

I think I have a date for tomorrow. Yay! I hope this sucker keeps his plans with me. I need to get the meeting, and the talking and the fucking started. No, I won't fuck him tomorrow. But the sooner we meet and we click, the better for both of us.

So far so good.

I've been chatting with a couple of guys lately and so far I am in lust with one. He's a cool guy that has somehow kept me interested. He loves to talk dirty, as do I, but he's not "pulling the trigger" when it comes to actually meeting me. We've met via online dating and it kind of sucks because I don't know what he looks like, besides the pic he sent, and he doesn't know what I look like.
I would give him hints and not surprisingly, men can't take a hint. "Ask me out!" All this dirty talk is getting both of us nowhere. The sooner you meet me, the sooner we can have a couple of dates under our belt and we can fuck.
Stupid ass men.

Back in the game

These guys are ridiculous and interesting at the same time. I'm back in the dating game and I am very optimistic I'll find the right guy to love me, spoil me, fuck me, and keep me satisfied. But in the meantime I'm enjoying the cat and mouse games.